Can you imagine letting go of judgment, embracing the present moment, and truly living your best life? That's precisely the journey my guest, Brendan Watt, an international speaker and best-selling author, has embarked upon, and today, he's here to share his transformative insights with us. As a key part of Access Consciousness, a global empowerment company, Brendan has a wealth of wisdom to share about addiction, conscious choice-making and self-awareness.
Brendan's journey to sobriety allowed him to see addiction in a different light, reframing it as anything that distracts us from the present moment. In this enlightening conversation, we explore how societal judgment and self-comparison can obstruct us from recognizing our inherent worth and potential. But that’s not all. We also discuss how to reclaim control of our lives through conscious decision-making, moving away from the chains of victimhood towards a path of self-forgiveness and understanding.
In our final segment, Brendan outlines a roadmap to sobriety, emphasizing the importance of honesty, self-awareness, and asking the right questions to truly understand ourselves. He encourages us to not just dream about a better life but to seize it with decisive action. Get ready to challenge your preconceptions and discover practical strategies that can help you achieve your dream life. Prepare to be inspired, enlightened, and empowered in this thought-provoking episode.
Can you imagine letting go of judgment, embracing the present moment, and truly living your best life? That's precisely the journey my guest, Brendan Watt, an international speaker and best-selling author, has embarked upon, and today, he's here to share his transformative insights with us. As a key part of Access Consciousness, a global empowerment company, Brendan has a wealth of wisdom to share about addiction, conscious choice-making and self-awareness.
Brendan's journey to sobriety allowed him to see addiction in a different light, reframing it as anything that distracts us from the present moment. In this enlightening conversation, we explore how societal judgment and self-comparison can obstruct us from recognizing our inherent worth and potential. But that’s not all. We also discuss how to reclaim control of our lives through conscious decision-making, moving away from the chains of victimhood towards a path of self-forgiveness and understanding.
In our final segment, Brendan outlines a roadmap to sobriety, emphasizing the importance of honesty, self-awareness, and asking the right questions to truly understand ourselves. He encourages us to not just dream about a better life but to seize it with decisive action. Get ready to challenge your preconceptions and discover practical strategies that can help you achieve your dream life. Prepare to be inspired, enlightened, and empowered in this thought-provoking episode.
Hello everyone, welcome to the Unleashed Podcast with Fermi Akinyemi, the podcast where we consistently look to share ideas, thoughts and concepts around how you can unleash your best self and take yourself to the next level. Sometimes it's just me, and sometimes I get some amazing guests who can share their personal experience, life story or just some real coaching techniques. they have to come and share these tips with you to make all the difference in the world. So what have we got this week? This week, i've got a special, special guest. I've got Brendan Watt. He is a worldwide speaker, best-selling author and access consciousness, a global empowerment company present in 176 countries, and his classes and workshops empower others to know they are not wrong and that anything is possible and that they are just one choice away from change. He specializes in helping others to overcome addiction as he, too, walks the path of recovery and sobriety. So, brendan, great to have you. Welcome to the Unleashed Podcast and thank you. Thank you so much for joining us on this podcast. How are you, my friend?
Speaker 2:Hello, my friend, i'm great. Thank you for having me here, you know, and it's interesting actually just hearing you read the name of this podcast. Actually just recalled I did this call a while back that was called Unleashing You, so hopefully, you remember us even more.
Speaker 1:But thanks for coming. You know what? Normally I try to go into these things quite organically and kind of go nice. But I'm going to go straight in. As I was reading your profile, one of the things that came to me was you said you help others overcome addiction, and the obvious addictions, when we all think of addictions, are some of the more sort of vices that the world thinks of a lot, some of the more sort of vices that have real negative connotations around them addiction to drugs, addiction to porn, addiction to stealing, all those things. But with the way the world is going, there's addiction is a much more broader term, isn't it? addiction is could be anything. You could be addicted to anything, can't you?
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, yeah, and the way I look at it is, yeah, you do have your bigger ones, you know, like for me it was alcohol, but also thousands of other things, which was basically anything that I use to take me out of being present in any moment, you know. So we've got like social media. You look at that. I realize how much. I even grabbed my phone and I'm like what am I doing? I don't require my phone right now, you know, but it's also to take me away from being present in the moment. So, yeah, it is a huge topic and I think it really became bigger with the whole COVID thing.
Speaker 1:I think people started to realize yeah, that's true, that's true because then, all of a sudden, we've got this free time on our hands and you haven't got to go into the office to commute to time, which, if you commute, it, takes you away from some of these vices. But now that that's not there anymore and you're just at home, people started to find out that there were a lot of things that we do to take ourselves from having to deal with the reality of life.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, and that's it. and also the thing that I found, also with people and also looking at it myself, was taking me away from really getting to know me and I think that's been a big part of my journey is getting down to getting even in the dirty piles that you don't want to get in, you know, and really looking at who am I like, who do I truly desire to be in this world, and then where am I not being there? you know, what am I using to not be that? and I think for a lot of us that's we've used a lot of distraction to take us away from that, you know, to create ourselves as something that we think we should be, not something that we actually do.
Speaker 1:You think a lot of us are scared of getting down dirty, looking at who we should be, what we should be. Why are we afraid to confront that? because I suspect a bit of it has to do with we know we're falling short of the mark of who we should truly be and there's a bit of shame or a bit of regret or there's a whole bunch of feelings that's stopping us from looking at and going I'm not, i'm not, i'm not, i'm not, i'm not hitting the mark.
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, and you never can. It's as long as you're using judgment as the the source for comparison to others. For example, like if you look, if you look around you and go, well, i'm not as good at this person as this person at this, i'm not as good as this person at this, and you're always in comparison, then you're always in judgment. So we really eliminate the choice out of our world with that to look at what gift we actually are.
Speaker 2:But also, for me, one of the things that helps me a lot is I grew up extremely sensitive to the world around me. You know so much awareness of everything going on around me that I was like well, how do I, how do I deal with all of that? so I think for a lot of us who are kind of different or kind of know this, you like, well, i think there's something really different about me. You know that thing. You want to kind of hide from the world. Well, it's we. We tend to try and get away from that rather than seek that out and actually recognize that's the gift. And in that it may be uncomfortable to look at, but also it's only uncomfortable to look at because you can't define it the way that you've been taught to define things.
Speaker 1:So I'd say, coming out of that is you know that's what led you to your own addiction, which is, rather than confront this reality of yourself, you started to escape into alcohol, and for some others, it's other stuff, right.
Speaker 2:Definitely. Well, alcohol was my achilles, you know, but I knew I always had a problem with it from the first drink I had.
Speaker 2:I think I was 14 at the time and you know I was. I was with friends and they were like you know, we had one beer and they were like, okay, let's go and do something. And I'd be like I want another one, you know, and there was always a need in my world for more. But so I actually had a good friend of mine a while back when I was beginning my sobriety journey. He asked me what did it feel like when you took that first drink? and I went, wow, and I actually looked at that and kind of tapped into that energy of what it was like as that 14 year old kid and I was like you know, i finally felt like I belonged And I think I see that with a lot of us too, who take up addiction and different things, this is like wow, it gives me this sense that I actually fit in.
Speaker 1:Oh, interesting. So being part of a crowd and not having to stand alone by yourself.
Speaker 2:Yeah, And that's. I see that as one of the things that tends to be people's greatest fear is.
Speaker 1:And this alone can go into anything. right, if it's being an entrepreneur, it's following your dreams, following your goals, your purpose. At some point. if you want to do that, you can't look for approval from others. You've just got to embrace this purpose. And for a lot of us, when you get to a certain age in life, you don't want to do that. If anything, you want to more than ever When you're young, you're a teenager, you want to be in a pair group, but then there's always a need as a human beings to be part of a social group, right. But when you get to a certain age, being different is the last thing you want to do, Because then people think you're foolish, you're reckless, you're not wise, you're irresponsible and stuff like that. Yeah. So how do you advise people to embrace that?
Speaker 2:Well, i would say, first of all, start tapping into what you'd actually like your life to be like in five years, in 10 years, and start getting a sense of that. Because, see, for me, one of the things, was I That unwillingness to be as different as I am, or the unwillingness to stand alone, the unwillingness to really be unleashed and set myself free and actually have all of that creativity that I know I have available? was that, in order to do that, without doing that, like with holding myself back, i knew it was killing me, which was another thing with the alcohol. So we tend to it's like yeah, but that next step it seems so big or something like that. I would say, for people looking at that is like take a step and ask, okay, what could I be or do different today? That would create my life as something that would be.
Speaker 1:So it's almost like you take it one step at a time right.
Speaker 2:Well, once, yeah, definitely one step at a time, but also learn from that step. You know, one of the things we talk about in the work that I do is every choice you make creates awareness, each and every choice. So if you're willing to make the choice and go okay, rather than look for okay, what's the right choice that I can make here, how am I going to be a success based on the way everybody else chooses? it is choosing something and then going okay, so what?
Speaker 1:awareness. You mean I take a step. How did that feel? How did that make me feel? How did that set me free? Did that make me feel close to the person I was created to be?
Speaker 2:Well, yeah, and also, what did it create? You know, because we've all made choices like I've made, way too many where I knew it wasn't going to turn out great. I knew it wasn't going to create more for my life, but I made it anyway. And then see, because here's the next step, if you're willing to have on this journey of yours, have one of the big demands be a lot of kindness for yourself.
Speaker 1:I thought I could read you my notes, but I was going to ask how does this tie to kindness to self? So, since you're ready to carry on kindness to self?
Speaker 2:Man, i would say kindness to self is getting out of judgment, you know, really looking at that difference of what truly would I like to have as my life and living, and following your dreams, and if one of the things I like to do which is kind of sounds weird but whatever, but it's like but I like to kind of tap into the energy that I had when I was a kid, you know, when everything was about the miracles of life, when it was about what's out there, like in that total wonder of the universe is. You know, that kind of thing. And so kindness is a huge element with this, because if you can have that with choice, then you can look at your choice and go OK, that didn't turn out. I knew it wasn't going to turn out.
Speaker 1:I chose it. I mean, it's almost like, what am I? I'm going to forgive yourself, being grace, grace towards yourself. You know you try something, it doesn't work, and go. you know what? Femi, brandon, it's OK, i've tried, it didn't work, or it tried, it worked, and you move on and not holding onto stuff.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's a huge gift. I mean, the more you're willing to let go of the past and not have it define you, the more you're actually able to step into something different.
Speaker 1:It's true, but I also kind of if I'm some, if I'm one of the listeners, they're thinking as well. those past, they were traumatic and that's why they're not easy to let go of. You're fired from a job or you a bad breakup, divorce or something. These things really really leave a scar on you, so it's not easy to let go. So how do you let go?
Speaker 2:Right, well, good question. And that thing of forgiving yourself and actually getting to allowance of yourself where it's recognizing. Ok, see, let me say this The big gifts that I got many years ago was the recognition that my life was a sum total of the choices that I'd made. And I was like because, see, i grew up with, i had a lot of abuse, i grew up really poor. I grew up in around things that kids shouldn't have to go through. So I do get that, you know, i do get that part of it. But when I realized that I had choices with the way that I was handling it, i had choices with what it was, what it was, what I was using it to create as my life, then I went, oh, ok, i'm actually choosing to be a victim with all of this. That acknowledgement alone was a gift, because then I started getting out of it. I used to be a victim.
Speaker 1:The world today, everybody, look victims, let's not. there are victims, But I don't want to in any way say diminish their hurt or their pain, But people, a lot of. there's a lot of people as well who very quickly want to define themselves as victims for whatever reason. And it's a big problem in the world today, right, Which is, instead of sort of looking in words and kind of choosing to press on, they just go I'm a victim and they get stuck.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and the thing that gets them stuck is the lie that they're a victim, and that's what this is a great tool, because this has helped me a lot throughout my life is and I apologize if I speak of you I'm losing sound.
Speaker 1:Can you hear me quite well?
Speaker 2:A little bit Okay, cool, i can, and then it kind of chops out. But so the thing I was saying, though a great tool with this is recognize that anything that sticks you, there's some lie there that you're not acknowledging. So for me, the thing being stuck in victim was the lie was that I was a victim. The lie was that I didn't have a different choice. The lie was that I was powerless because of it. So when you're willing to recognize the lie and go, oh okay, that's a lie, then you can actually get yourself out of it.
Speaker 1:The truth will always set you free And you've got to confront that truth. And, yes, you are in pain, Yes, you've been through stuff, but also nobody can get you out of it. But you, only you, can stand up and say I've had enough. I make a choice I choose to be free, I choose to start afresh, I choose to forgive myself, right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and also there's a thing that we do with that as well, where it's like well, I have to do this on my own, which is true to to a degree, because you're the only one that can actually choose something different, But also we have a whole universe that's willing to contribute to us. So for me, what I do is it's like recognize, yeah, I'm the only one that can make the choice, But, hey, universe, will you please assist me with this? Can I please get clarity with this, some ease with this, give me some direction? And you begin to to ask a question rather than come to a conclusion of what can't change. And that's the thing that is. So it opens you up, You just become blows me away every time you become open to, to.
Speaker 1:if you're a person of faith, you become open to the, to the Spirit leading you, and if you're if you're not, you become open to the universe, kind of directing you and what's coming right Well the more you're willing to be in question, the more you can actually receive.
Speaker 2:So yeah, that openness is the willingness to receive something different.
Speaker 1:So, which brings me to the other question, which is a good one of. One of your things you're quite key. You talk a lot about is how to take others points of view, not personally. Now, this is a hard one, because all of us know secretly people's point of personal people's point of view or feedback hurts us. So how do you not think people's point of view personally? How can you not when someone gives you direct feedback or says something directly about you?
Speaker 2:Well, that you can recognize. okay, what are they actually saying this for, you know, and ask that question Are they actually judging me? to create some control over me? And see, the only the only thing that can allow you to be controlled by other people's points of view, for example, is if you've aligned and agreed with it, or if you're in resistance and reaction to it. So somebody you know says to me Oh my God, you're a total asshole or you're an alcoholic, you know whatever, and has the judgment of that, which is one of the things I've had to be present with as well I can.
Speaker 2:if I have that point of view about myself already, then I can align and agree with it, which means I'm stuck. If I have that point of view about me already, but I don't want to see it, then I can resist and react to it and put myself into fight, which means I'm stuck. If I don't have a point of view about it and just go Oh, okay, cool, that's your point of view, what's my point of view about myself? Then I don't have to be the effect of it, and a great way to get there is all those points of view that come up every time they come up. Interesting point of view. I have that point of view. You know, and say that, say that out, say that in your head if it's with yourself, or I mean out loud if it's with yourself, but in your head if it's around other people.
Speaker 1:you know, because the more you're willing to be an interesting point of view the less and is when someone gives you feedback about yourself, you go, okay, interesting points of view, and that that puts it in neutral because it doesn't make it negative and doesn't make it positive.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Good way of putting it exactly right Doesn't make a negative, doesn't make it positive, which means you don't have to be in judgment of it.
Speaker 1:And mentally it means it's interesting. But you now give yourself the time to process and decide what you do with that information.
Speaker 2:Well, yeah, and you don't have to go into fight either. You actually have choice, because for a lot of us, we see our choices are to fight or to not fight, to resist or to react or to align and to agree, and it's good or it's bad. It's like we've got these two choice universe rather than the question of what can I actually do?
Speaker 1:And that's super powerful. And that's one of the big things I've learned from this session already, which is very quickly it allows you, because feedback has constantly been thrown at us, people are constantly saying things about us and if we just go interesting, interesting point of view, very quickly it just parks it. It's almost like it just parks it to one side and then that's a very good way for you to just go yeah, i'm not doing anything with that or and it doesn't penetrate into your subconscious, which is where all the damage takes place, right.
Speaker 2:Well, yeah, it's all the stuff that we hold on to, you know, like you said, all the stuff that we take so personally, because somewhere in your world you've already aligned and agreed with that point of view. So this is again that inward journey of looking at wow, you know, one of the things I had to look at with myself was, yeah, what is my point of view about myself? You know, what do I actually think about me? in for basically my whole life, it had always been that I'm less than that. I'm never going to be enough. You know, all of these different things that I'd adopted as points of view that were basically running my life, that's true, that's true?
Speaker 1:No, that's a powerful one. I thank you for that, because that's something that even I can use in my day to day. Imagine I was having a session where I was working with a client and she's just been through in all sorts of negative. I've been going through a period. I've been really busy, so I've not been able to give this client as much attention and they've just been showing negative feedback on me. And you know how when you get that feedback on a Friday and it plagiarized you throughout the weekend, so it's kind of been messing with me.
Speaker 1:And if I'd had that tool to just go, okay, interesting feedback, it would have meant that I would have not had to do the fight or flight. So I spent the whole weekend going one minute I'm fighting, the next I'm flying, it's a flight to fight, flight, fight, flight, fight, flight. And in the end it just made the weekend a mess. So that's, if I just gone, interesting feedback. I'll take that on board, thank you. It just allows me to just neutralize it. Just neutralize it. Yeah, it doesn't put me in that. It puts me in that third place, which is is feedback Some of it's useful, some of it's not so useful. And the last thing, to put it in context and decide what I do with that feedback.
Speaker 2:Well, and that's the that's the other thing too is it allows you to be in question. So if, for anyone listening, i would say, like, even with what you're talking about, with having a situation with a person in your life, say, for example, even you know we've all had relationships, you know, and you might have fight and stuff going on, is that tool? Interesting point of view. I have this point of view. But then also interesting point of view they have this point of view. And then interesting point of view I have the point of view they have this point of view because a lot of us go into this thing also of going well, they're saying this because, or they're doing this because you know we've got this whole universe created. Yeah, it's not necessarily what you're going to want either.
Speaker 1:It allows you to not take it personal, which is what triggered this conversation, but also for the other person when you say interesting point of view for them as well, all of a sudden. It doesn't it, because you're not fight or flight either. It doesn't escalate into a conflict between you and the other person as well, right?
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly, and it's like and you and you can actually create the freedom for you with it, but then with that, with your willingness to not go into fight with it, they have nothing to fight against. When something, when someone doesn't have something to fight against, the fight eventually dies And also fight with, or they find somebody else to fight.
Speaker 1:So that's really useful. Which begins my next question, which is acting over hoping. I mean, on the face of it, that seems obvious. But when you say acting over hoping is one of the topics you're quite interested in, am I right to say it just means just do it, or is there more to it than that?
Speaker 2:No, i think you're pretty pretty much onto it. There is well, most of us look for, most of us use wishing and hoping as a way to replace choosing and taking action. You know, so it's like, if you look at one of the big topics in the world at the moment is money. You know a lot of people who got financial struggle. So it's like, and you know, i wish this would change. I hope this eventually changes.
Speaker 2:Other than, what action could I take today that would change this? What could I be or do different today that would change this? What choices do I have that I could make that would change this? You know, because I think we can all relate to it. We're going the thing of I hope this turns out just fine, which is you've already decided the way you think you want it to turn out and the way that you know it can't necessarily, but it's like. But action is the only thing that's actually going to hope is not a strategy, it's a future. Yeah, no, it's not a very good one, not a very good one at all from from many years of trying it. No, i would say it's not very good.
Speaker 1:So your life journey would be in alcoholic sobriety for you. What's, what was the turning moment for you then?
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh. The turning moment for me was I started getting a sense that the alcohol had gotten basically out of control. I couldn't really stop. So a few years ago I started trying to stop, in vain. I'd go a few weeks without it and started getting a little bit of help, but still didn't really want to change it.
Speaker 2:I remember the first time that I I think I read it in a book that it was basically the only way that you're going to change this is total abstinence from alcohol, and I was like no alcohol ever. You know, that was horrifying to me. So, but but as I kept moving with that, you know, and I tried doing it all on my own, i thought no, i can handle this, i can handle this, but I didn't really want to look at the roots of it, i didn't really want to look at the source of it And eventually it, just last year, beginning of last year, it kind of bubbled over And you know, i drank to a point where I was kind of gone and I realized in that moment, if I don't get some help, if I don't actually get honest with myself with this, it's not, i'm not going to have a future.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that was a thing to look at Like a bottom that a lot of people refer to it as Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and each and each and every one of us have our own when it comes to something like that. You know, i was actually talking with the girl yesterday because, you know, now people reach out to me and be like, hey, i'm struggling with alcohol, and you know so I'll give them some tools and kind of be there to support in the way that I can. But this girl that I was talking to, she keeps doing basically what I was doing, you know. So my question to her was so you haven't found your bottom yet? And she was like no, apparently not. But it's like for her, she's seeking out that bottom as her, knowing that she needs to hit it in the way that she needs to in order to make a different choice.
Speaker 1:And so for a lot of us who have money addiction, procrastination addiction, device addiction, many addictions that stop us from chasing our purpose on our goal Rather than digging till we get to rock bottom, is there anything we can do? Is there any advice, tips you have for us?
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, i would say definitely don't go for rock bottom. You know, that seems to be some ideal that I know. for me, it created a lot of awareness, but it's also something you have to get to as as if it's the motivation that you need to to create the, the strength in your world to move forward. I would say begin going to question with everything You know. so if you're looking at, let's say, money, for example, is what am I actually choosing this for? you know, and start with, start with questions and and just notice the things. And this is the thing with for me, with unleashing you and and getting really looking inward with yourself is getting brutally honest with you. So it's not about because you could have told me two years ago, hey, you have a problem with alcohol, and I would have said, femi, i don't want to hear it Because I don't want to look at it. So it's like so, this is, you're the only one to have that moment of reflex.
Speaker 1:You have to reflect, question everything and reflect and be honest with yourself.
Speaker 2:It's not easy, and that's it. It's not that that is not easy. It usually doesn't mean.
Speaker 1:I mean, i found out. Sometimes you have that feeling and then sometimes it disappears And you've got to find a way. When you're going through a moment of that, that feeling, you've got to find a way to stay in that place where you challenge yourself because you can, you can some, you could have a day or two and after that you're back to who you were and carry on with your life. And that feeling when it comes, how do you sort of hold on to it?
Speaker 2:Well, i would say, one of the things we talk about too is we. we tend to use our feelings a lot against ourselves, so we'll be like, rather than you know, once we've decided we're feeling a certain way, then basically we're stuck with feeling that way. I would say, with that, ask a question like what am I actually perceiving here? I've decided I'm feeling because, see, one of the things, one of the first tools I got actually when I found access consciousness 13 years ago now, was 98% of your thoughts, your feelings and your emotions don't actually belong to you. You pick them up from the world around you.
Speaker 2:And when I heard that, i went Oh, my God, that explains my life, because I wondered why I could be happy one moment and then depress the next. Or I could be happy and feel like I get that sense of me one moment and then the next moment I'd be angry or I'd be upset or you know whatever else was going on. And so with that I recognize, wow, i've just been extremely aware. So great tool is for every thought, feeling and emotion that comes up. you want to ask who does this belong to? And if it lightens up at all, then that's your order things.
Speaker 1:A lot of people say you don't trust your feelings Because your feelings you don't know where they've come from, their misconceptions, judgments, biases they could have come from anywhere, so don't trust them Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, and that's a good point. It's don't trust them, but also don't let them dictate your choices. You know, because for a lot of us, a lot of us will use well, i don't want to do this because I don't feel like it, or I don't feel good today. If you don't let your feelings determine what you will and will not choose, your life will take off because now it's well, i'm choosing it anyway. You know, i don't feel comfortable doing this interview, or I don't feel comfortable exposing this part of myself, or I don't feel, feel, feel It's like if you were willing to go, okay, if it wasn't about the feelings, what do I actually know? Then you're going to have a more of a sense of what you can actually generate and create with your life.
Speaker 1:I've enjoyed this so much. So what is the last question I have really, which I think is quite useful, is so for people who kind of want to sense what their purpose is, what their direction, where they should be headed. So you know you're not quite who you want to be, what you should be doing, but you don't know who it should be or what you should be doing, how do you advise people to dig into themselves to find out where, where or who or what they should be doing or who they are?
Speaker 2:You know it's such a great question because that was one of the things I struggled with too. I was like I have no idea what I want my life to be like. I have no idea what to create. But basically a couple of things is look around and see, see what other people choose, and rather than try and compare yourself to that, you could ask, okay, would that be fun to have in my life, would that be fun to live like? that, you know, and start getting a sense energetically what you would like in your life, because it's all we've got to recognize, it's all about the energetics of it.
Speaker 2:Getting a sense of what you'd like your life to be like energetically is a big key, because we've all done the thing of going well, if I, if I, had the money, i'd be happy. And then you get the money and you're like I'm miserable, nothing changed, or I've had the relationship, the perfect relationship, i'll be happy. You get the relationship and all you do is argue and you're miserable. It's not about the, it's not trying to find something outside of you to fulfill you. It's about recognizing it's. It's you being you that's going to fulfill you.
Speaker 2:So the other thing with this too is start. Start kind of just getting a bit still with yourself and and ask okay, if I had a magical wand and could create my life as anything, what would that be? Start getting a sense of what you would like that to be. So at least now you begin to have something to ask for And then you can start asking okay, what can I be or do today? that would actually give me more awareness of what would be true for me, what I'd actually like to say it's almost like step one.
Speaker 1:Look around, you try and visualize what that light their lives are like and then close your eyes, be still and imagine yourself living that life, and if it makes a smile, if it brings an energy to you, then you know there's something there. if it doesn't, you know that you've got to keep looking.
Speaker 2:Well, i would say that thing with that you said with, if it smiles, if you smile, it kind of gives you that sense of that energy. Great way of looking at it, because one of the things we talk about also is what's true for you will always make you lighter, always. What's what's not true for you is all what's a lie in your world is always going to make you heavier. So once you start trusting that lightness and going, oh, you know what, this choice that I'm about to make, it really matches the energy of that life that I'm starting to to get a sense of. I'm going to choose that and you start choosing based on what you are aware of that's true for you, absolutely, your life will begin to.
Speaker 1:I mean we could just keep talking and talking, and talking and talking and we could stop. We do. We've got to get you on again. So where do we find out more about you? where do you find out more? where do you find out? where can people find out more from if they're interested?
Speaker 2:I would say check out my website is brandon what dot com? but also check out access consciousness. Google it, access consciousness dot com. It's A phenomenal. With the tools that are available and it's just. I mean, i wouldn't be here yet. Honestly, i wouldn't be here without it.
Speaker 1:I wouldn't be your message. so a lot of our guests are people who who listen to our podcast because they want to be, they want to be Motivated or to be inspired, they want something to understand how they unlock their next level. what is your party message for everyone?
Speaker 2:I would say Look for what it is you truly desire to have as your life and go for it, regardless of what other people think of it. Get clear on what that is, even if it is uncomfortable to look at, even if it's, you know, gets a little hard to look at is get clear on that so you actually have some sense of what you are capable of. And then I would say go for it, don't let anyone stop you.
Speaker 1:I'll take that to heart as well, brandon. Thank you so much. You heard it all. There's a lot of great stuff we spoke to spoke about, but for me personally, if I reflect more, the big things for me is Number one question everything. Number two when someone gives you feedback, tell yourself that's interesting. Number three is look around you and visualize and see if that's the life you wanted. If it makes you smile, you know you're onto something. Those are three of the powerful feet of the lessons we've learned from this feet of this podcast. But there's so, so, so much more, and it's been great having Brandon here to share these tips. So I do hope you found it useful. Take it to heart, go for it, visualize yourself living the life you want. Every feedback you get, question it and say it's interesting, but think deeper about it And, above all, don't just hope. Act and you'll make all the difference. Get on list, stay on list and thanks Brandon for coming.